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Kid Logic
It�s Not Just For Kids

by Debra Hegerle

I�m sorting the laundry, and I�m starting to search my 8-year-old son Eric�s room and I see his summer backpack and it appears to be stuffed with what I assume are his own dirty camp clothes--especially his beach towel. I open it up and out comes a dirty, smelly, beach towel that doesn�t belong to us.

I�m shaking my head....because I know where this is leading. You see, it�s the last day of camp, so my mind starts scrambling for ways to figure out how to get this missed item back to its proper owners, and find out where ours is in the process. The perfect setup for yet another chance to once again experience Kid Logic.

A Kid Logic set up goes like this:

�Whose towel is this?� I ask in wonder.

�I don�t know.� Distracted reply.

�You took someone else�s towel, stuffed it in your backpack, and you don�t know who�s?� asked in my best incredulous tone.

�Well.... yeah!� he replies with his �Gee Mom, this is a perfectly normal thing, and why don�t you get it� voice.

�Where�s your beach towel, did you forget it, lose it, or trade it or something?� Trying to get him to simply tell me what happened to his towel, and why he has someone else�s towel instead.

�No, there�s my towel� he casually points to a crumpled towel thrown off to the far corner of his bed.

�Well, how come you have this towel stuffed in your backpack then?!� I ask this while trying not to laugh, because I realize that I�m in the mist of a perfect Kid Logic moment, and that I finally stumbled unto the right question -- �How did you get the towel, and why?�

At which point, now that I�ve finally �asked the right question� the answer comes spilling out in one long breath:

�Well, I was in a hurry and the counselors were telling us to get ready and I couldn�t find my towel but I found that towel because it was close by me and I knew I needed to bring a towel home because you�d ask me if I brought my towel home so I just grabbed that towel and put it in my backpack and then as I was walking away one of the counselors said �Eric don�t forget your towel� and handed me my towel and I don�t know how she got my towel so I just took my towel and left.�

There it is--a perfect example of Kid Logic: If you know things didn�t go as they should, don�t say anything about it, and if or when it is noticed, make sure you get the other person to ask the exactly right question before you answer.

A simple game really, and only takes two people to play.

Now some people, they could get upset or angry with Kid Logic, but not me. I thoroughly enjoy this type of exchange with my son. To me, Kid Logic is fun. That�s because I understand the golden opportunity this type of situation presents -- that being shared humor, and the opportunity to flow and become more flexible.

I share the humor of knowing I did this type of thing with my own parents. I share the knowledge that other parents experience this, too. That eventually my own child will be experiencing this, and indeed has already experienced similar versions of Kid Logic with others younger than himself. What a wonderful shared common ground of experience from many levels we all have.

That�s the point, with these types of situations....to see the humor. To reach for and keep that humor, keep the perspective, rather than give into the momentary frustration. In my opinion, moments like these happen in our lives just to give us the opportunity to choose and flow with the humor rather then with the frustration or possibly anger. After all, it�s only a towel.

Here�s an example of Kid Logic expressed in �teen terms�:

I just recently went through a similar situation with my then-15-year-old nephew Travis. He went to get something to drink and pulled a plastic glass from my cupboard, and he noticed it was the same type of plastic glasses that a particular restaurant used when we went out to eat the night before. And even with all my ways of telling him that I bought the glasses years ago for my son from a grocery store, there was no convincing him and he insisted that I had stolen those glasses from that restaurant. So for him, it was that his aunt was a thief; for me it was, �Oh, well.� Now, two years later, I�m chuckling over this.

Kid Logic isn�t just for kids; it�s for teens and adults, too. Kid logic keeps us young, and young at heart. It helps us see what�s really important, in so many ways, but the best is how to not let little things get blown out of proportion.

Kid Logic helps us flow in new areas as we grow and participate with others. We remember to laugh and not take too much too seriously. When we do, we are taking the good things, our good behavior skills, learned from our own childhood memories of lost towels, and passing them on through our own teens and adult years, into continuing them with our kids, teens, and other adults around us.

The best thing about Kid Logic, is that it�s never too late to learn, and you�re never too old to play.

� Debra Aurelia Hegerle

A contributor to The Indigo Children by Lee Carroll and Jan Tober, calls herself a true right & left brained individual. She had been an accountant for more than 14 years when she decided it was time to explore a more �right brained� career path. She became a travel consultant while expanding her abilities as an intuitive consultant. Six years later, she began her own company, Dragonfly Productions, which assists people with both General Bookkeeping and Spiritual Consulting. She�s been married 17 years and has one child. She is a hospice volunteer for the Home Health Plus Hospice Organization, having received her hospice training from Compassion in Action (CIA) She periodically works with CIA chapters in San Francisco and San Jose Calif. Her interests are astrology and energywork (Reiki, Huna, Bowen), freelance writing, horseback riding, jazz dance and aerobics. You can reach Debra at deb@planetdeb.net