With meditation, as with any new activity in which you engage, it will take time for your mind and body to adjust to this new skill. However, the more you practice the art of meditation, the better you will get.

You may want to start your daily meditations by reflecting your daily interactions and how you demonstrated virtuous behavior. Over time, you will be able to expand your meditative thoughts to images of a broader meaning that comes out of your contributions to the human condition. The goal of your meditations will be to connect your daily actions to a higher meaning in your life. This will help you to connect to your spiritual side. Are your actions providing a benefit to another person? How does this contribute to a higher good? Can you connect your actions to how you feel? Through quiet reflection time each day and by using the virtue format to reflect, you will be able to focus on how well you are engaging people and writing your legacy. If you were to pass away today, what would the people who know you say about you? If you could write an epitaph for your gravestone depicting the kind of person you are, what would you say? Are you avoiding people? Are you expecting others to satisfy your needs? You may be waiting for others to respect and love you instead of demonstrating these virtues on a daily basis. You may be thinking that others will seek you out and love you. You need to meditate each day in order to regain a sense of reality and a proper perspective on what is important. Many times, life stresses will cause you to lose perspective, which in turn causes you to become irrational and mix up your priorities.

Through a daily ritual that lasts at least 30 minutes each day, you can reflect on life and rediscover the truth about what is meaningful and what is not. Many people spend most of their day reflecting on meaningless information. This is information over which they have no control. Do you obsess over things you cannot control? Do these thoughts consume you and cause you to be distant or hurtful to the other person in your relationship? Once you maintain a daily meditation ritual, you will gain the ability to see beyond your daily hassles and focus on what you can do to improve your relationships and find greater meaning in your life.

For those of you who would like some initial thoughts on which to meditate, the remainder of this chapter contains a list of daily reflections. These reflections will target some of your irrational themes that you pick up from your daily experiences with other human beings. These reflections do not target just the virtues of love, respect, and honesty; they also target themes that you may face that cause you confusion or concern. These reflections can provide you with ways to see the truth about a relationship and how you can fight your tendency to look at situations in irrational ways. You may not gain a sense of spirituality right away during your daily reflections. However, as you begin to think more rationally and incorporate the virtues of love, respect, and honesty in your relationship, you will find your spirituality.

• Meditation One
  
• Meditation Two
  
• Meditation Three
  
• Meditation Four
  
• Meditation Five
  
• Meditation Six
  
• Meditation Seven
  
• Meditation Eight
  
• Meditation Nine
  
• Meditation Ten

© 2002 Jay Krunszyinsky

The resource this came from is my book, I'm Sorry: Repairing a Hurtful Relationship.

Publisher: Word Association Publishers
ISBN: 1-932205-02-0
November 11, 2002

Pages referenced 85-97

Jay Krunszyinsky’s I’m Sorry