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Win The Confidence Game

    "Everybody's looking for a hero. People need someone to look up to."

    The lines from this popular song says *everybody,* and that must mean you, that must mean me. That means over six billion people around the world... are looking for a hero - someone to look up to.

    If heroes are in demand, that means there is a steady supply of would-be heroes. Thus, The Confidence Game is by far one of the world's most fiercely played.

    The Confidence Game involves conveying, aptly, confidence. How do you do this? What is the secret to making everyone feel that everything is alright? That we are on the winning team. That we're right and they're wrong.

    The process can be dotted with pitfalls. Why? When was the last time you were part of an organization / group in which everything was under control? No needs, no problems. If you are in such an organization, you must have boarded a train bound for Utopia.

    For, the rest of us, there is no Utopia. Yet, would-be heroes have the task of giving their people a bit of Utopia, if only through words and imagery, in order to win hearts and minds. Here is where The Confidence Game ensues.

    Selling confidence means selling hope, selling promises, selling facades, selling threats and selling lies. Would-be heroes overpromise with confidence, then make themselves scarce when they fail to follow-through. Would-be heroes sell lip-service. Display hubris. The smoke and mirrors are often effective, though temporarily so.

    Eventually, as the song says, the truth is found out. "I never found anyone to fulfill my needs." Translation: The heroes never came through.

    True heroes are rare. True heroes exist because of a concept that few contestants in The Confidence Game apply. Spot the key word below.

    "I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadow.

    If I fail, if I succeed, at least I did as I believe.

    No matter what they take from me, they can't take away my [*integrity*]."

    (My adaptation.)

    Yes, folks, the word is *integrity.* The original lyrics used the word "dignity." Not as important as integrity, in my book. Integrity and dignity don't necessarily go hand in hand. Integrity means telling the truth, even when you've failed. Many do not see dignity in doing this, and prefer to go the more cowardly route of covering up.

    The world is in desperate need of heroes. Heroes who work diligently and with integrity. For the higher good, the good of all, not just for their own personal gain, not for their egos.

    Do you walk the talk with integrity? Do you follow-through on your promises? Do you work for the good of all? Do you realize that we must cooperate together from our smallest societal unit, the family, on up to our companies, organizations, towns, states, countries, and the world?

    We are all connected. You are one unique link in the great multi-faceted chain of humanity.

    The Confidence Game is just that, a game. Stop playing games and attend to real lives. We can start by walking our talk with integrity. By making conscientious efforts on behalf of the higher good - the good of all.

    Song: "The Greatest Love of All," lyrics, Whitney Houston.


    Hershey Wier, MBA, speaks, writes and coaches on personal and professional development.

    She founded ANEWIST Personal & Professional Development Services in order to offer fresh insight, guidance and support to people in achieving more fulfillment in their life path. Her unique blend of creative techniques and down-to-earth principles gives a balanced, enjoyable approach to creating synergistic, positive outcomes in life.

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